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From Diaper Purchases to Your Sanity; Advice for the First Time Parent

This post has been sponsored by Walmart; all thoughts and opinions are my own.

Can I just start this by saying that when it comes to motherhood, I’m literally learning everyday, and I will continue to learn until the very end. It’s one of the hard, yet beautiful things that come along with the task of raising your own children. Now, in my 30’s, I’m at the age where all my friends are starting to settle down – first comes the wedding talk, and then comes the baby talk.

I’m stoked!

I’m glad that my friends are going to soon join me on this journey! I’ve been a mom for 5 years now, and so to start getting some familiar faces in the same club is exciting for me! I would never shove my experiences or beliefs down their throats as they start their journeys too, but after 5 years and two kids, you sort of just …know some things at this point. Of course, we’re all different parents with different children, but if I had to compile just some of my advice into one blog post with the intention of soon-to-be or new parents reading it, this is what I would share…

Do NOT buy the Wipe Warmer (and other gimmicky baby products)

I specifically remember to this day, during one of my baby showers for my first son, a friend of mine who had already had a child say how she never used her wipe warmer after seeing that I had just gotten one as a gift! In my head I just told myself that it was going to be soooo helpful with diaper changes and that I would come to my own conclusions about a wipe warmer! Let me tell you, she was so right. To me it was just another thing in the way and that went basically unused. For the most part, babies don’t care. I used it about ten times and threw it away! Overall, there are a never-ending slew of products that are weird, not practical and full of too much gimmick in the baby raising world, but it’s up to you to decide what ones work for you and what you classify as gimmicky!

DO buy the generic brand

Obviously children are expensive, if you’re like our family where every dollar is helpful, than giving store brand items a chance is key and totally worth the money! Just because they don’t have a “big name” brand attached to their name, doesn’t mean their products aren’t of high quality.

Case in point, the diapers and wipes from Walmart’s brand Parents Choice have been around for 20 years providing affordable essentials that every child needs their first years of life. Their newest addition of Premium Diapers to their Parent’s Choice line, has been developed intensively with research, testing and highly advanced product refinement. Available in select stores and on Walmart.com, their Premium Diaper line has high quality features that are great for babies’ sensitive skin.

Created with Walmart’s 360 Pro Skin technology these diapers are super absorbent, made with breathable materials (including pulp harvested from sustainably managed forests) and contain a highly absorbent core that offers up to 12 hours of dryness – including overnight! One of the hardest things to deal with is a leakage in the middle of the night just when your little one just starts to sleep better at night!

These diapers have been dermatological tested, are lotion-free and ideal for babies in their first stage. They are gentle on skin and have an anti-leakage barrier that is ultra-effective around baby’s legs.

Dependable diapers are key through the ever-changing stages and a lot of the times when we find a diaper that works through all those stages, we tend to stick to one out of comfort! When I let go of the “only name brand products work” mentality, I ended up saving quite a bit of money throughout the years! There are plenty of generic brand products that are often better than the “name brand” ones, in my opinion! So don’t be afraid to step outside your comfort zone!

DO Save Your Baby Clothes

As little space as we have had throughout the years, I still made it a point to save a good portion of baby clothes from our first son knowing very well that we’d have more children in the future. Not only has this helped save a ton of money by not having to purchase new clothes when our second baby came around, but it was convenient, too! Knowing I could just go to the basement whenever my son was suddenly too big for his current size of clothing and being able to find a whole new selection of clothes was helpful. By the second time around, I also came to realize how unimportant having brand spanking new clothes for babies are. Once again, they do not care. Of course, I absolutely love shopping for new clothes and certainly have for our second born, but do not turn your head towards second-hand clothes from Rummage sales or thrift stores and hand me downs from other mom’s! 

All clothes I pulled from the basement that were Truman’s in preparation for Hugh’s arrival

DON’T Judge Another Mom

This should really go without saying, but as mom when you’re so adamant about something that involves your children and how well it worked for you, you want to tell every mom in the world and swear that it will work for them, too! However, I’ve learned many times that what works for you, does not mean it’s going to work for another parent, or baby in fact! As parents, everyday we’re just trying to take it in day-to-day! There have been many times when I see a mom do something that I swear i’d never do, but then I gently remind myself that it should not matter! It works for them and that’s that!

DO build a Support System

After my first son was born, I was so taken aback by how much my life had shifted that I went through a couple of months of the baby blues. I knew that I needed to reach out to friends who were already parents for insight and their experiences and found that it was a fairly common thing, and by talking it out and having them help me through it, made it easier and eventually the baby blues went away! Beyond that, the mom community can be a vital one for advice, suggestions, comfort, just knowing that someone knows what you’re going through. I recently went out to dinner with a new mom, and know what we did? We sat and complained about how hard it was being a mom, because it is. The sleep deprivation, the resentment we feel at times, the lack of time to do anything, the feeling of being alone it’s all hard, but we both said we would never not want to be a mom and then proceeded to talk about having more children. So that’s how it is and having fellow moms around you is vital.

Oddly enough, during both pregnancies my sister was also pregnant and usually only trailing a month behind! Totally unplanned!

DON’T Forget Your Sanity

I can’t tell you how many times a week I tell myself that I’m going to get my things together and be more organized and plan dinner better and not let the laundry sit for days or not let the TV entertain my kid so much, but yah know what, some days those things need to be neglected for the sake of my sanity. I complain a lot about the lack of time that I have to myself or to do much of anything and I am constantly trying to just stay on track let alone ahead of the game. With all that being said though, in order to accomplish any of our daily tasks we need to remember that we, as parents, need a moment to ourselves. I relish the 9 o’clock hour when both kids are (hopefully) sleeping and I can sink into a hot bubble bath. It really only takes 30 minutes for me to feel recharged! One of my favorite things to do on my own is…wait for it….grocery shop. As we grow up it really becomes about the little things in life, and this is certainly one of them. Don’t feel guilty for wanting to have a moment to yourself because you can’t take the screeching of your littles any longer! It’s a necessity and your family will appreciate it after they see how you have been recharged!

I always enjoy reading posts about what women have learned over the years as mothers! Do you have any tips or words of wisdom you’ve learned thus far on the journey of motherhood?

7 Comments

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    Larissa
    January 12, 2018 at 5:38 pm

    Wow, great tips! I’m not close to becoming a mom yet, but I have cousins who are already moms or recently became a mom, and they are sharing the joys and struggles of parenthood with young children. The tip of keeping the baby clothes is such a good one – I never really gave that much thought before. And I am all about the generic brand. It does the same job at a fraction of the cost!

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    Dee Jackson
    January 12, 2018 at 7:28 pm

    I really appreciate the fact that you said to build a support system and to not judge other moms. This is full of great info.

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    Indrani
    January 13, 2018 at 11:36 pm

    Saving up on elder kids clothes is one thing I have followed for several years. They out grow them so fast and the clothes would be hardly worn. And it is true the community of moms helps. So much to share and so much to learn.

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    kelsi
    January 14, 2018 at 2:14 am

    Your first two comments are hilarious to me in terms of timing… I have newborn preemie twins and they HATE getting their diapers changed, and I think it’s because the wipes are so cold, lol. So was considering getting the warmer even though it was something that I was told we don’t need. Also considering changing diaper brands because the ones we have seem to irritate newborn skin. So thanks for the tips!!

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      AShippy
      January 15, 2018 at 12:31 pm

      I think it’s a baby thing 🙂 My son is now 10 months old and he still hates getting his diaper changed! It only gets worse too because now they can crawl away, lol. Congrats on your twins! 🙂

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    Jamie
    January 14, 2018 at 6:58 pm

    YES I am so with you on the generic brand! We currently are LOVING Costco wipes (we got sooo many diapers at my baby shower so we still haven’t had to buy any of those yet) but yeah I actually am preferring the Costco brand to some of the more expensive brand wipes. And I’m so with you on judging other moms..I was JUST talking to a friend about how now that I’m a mom I don’t understand mom-shaming or judging at all (obviously if your child is in legit danger that’s different) but I feel like being a mom is so hard that I see other moms and want to be like I SEE YOU YOU ARE AWESOME THIS IS HARD YOU GOT THIS.

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      AShippy
      January 15, 2018 at 12:30 pm

      You’re the second person to tell me that Costco had great wipes! I love that generic brands are just as good, but a lot more affordable! Yes, girl! Thank you for understanding the need to NOT mom judge! I don’t see why anyone else would or should care!

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